This section talks about sympathy. With sympathy there are certain questions like “when is the right time to give sympathy”, “do they deserve sympathy”, etc. when giving someone sympathy you need to give it at the right times. Sometimes they just need some space, and others might need that sympathy. There is also the possibility of being rejected. Sympathy is normally earned through giving sympathy and/or going through a terrible time/event. There are also sympathy etiquette (rules) that must be followed. I have an aunt who breaks at least one of the four etiquette (rules). The first rule is to not lie about the event/disaster. Lying to gain someone’s sympathy can shrink their sympathy margin. A sympathy margin is someone’s sympathetic patients. The more that person gets used, doesn’t get gratitude for their sympathy, or even rejected the more it shrinks. The second rule, which my aunt breaks, is do not daunt on it too much or too long. What happens is that person’s sympathy margin shrinks and may lead to isolation. For example, some people might see you as a burden or someone who seeks attention. The third rule is to rely on sympathy abut occasionally. When someone relies on sympathy very rarely, they may not have someone to give sympathy or won’t get a lot. The fourth rule is to repay sympathy with gratitude. It doesn’t have to be in material things like money or jewelry. You can repay someone by giving sympathy when they need it. This does change depending on the person’s position. Normally not giving gratitude makes the person feel unappreciated. All in all its best for you to rely a little bit on sympathy, not draw it out for long, and repay someone for their sympathy.
2/3/2019