Down To Earth Sociology pages 192-198

When it comes down to how we speak, problems will start appearing. Man and women speak different, this causing some kind of miscommunication. The first miscommunication is women apologizing to much. The reason why many men say that a women apologizes to much is that it’s seen as putting oneself down. Not all cases of female apology is actually an apology. I’m another cause, when a woman says they are sorry they are trying to keep equal footing. What happens is that both parties take half the blame rather than only one party taking full blame. The second is criticism, ok which women use softeners. I’m this sense, softeners are a way to make the criticism less harsh. I’m the case of a man, he will get straight to the point. Doing so may make him seem a little aggressive, even mean. The third miscommunication is a Thank you. This is normally used with women as a conversation starter or closure, they are actually thanking someone. The problem with this lies with the receiver, they could make the giver feel like they are having a favor done. The fourth miscommunication is verbal fighting. What is expected by males is to put an idea out there and have a heated debate over it if any faults are pointed out. What happens when a woman is involved is that it is seen as a wrongful attack against them. This can cause them to appear weak and be questioned more; they start questioning their knowledge as well. The fifth miscommunication is praise, which is reversed for males than woman. What I mean is that for a woman to be praise someone has to say something. As with men, being praised is when you are left alone to continue doing that same kind of work. The sixth miscommunications is complaints, which women see as a conversation piece. Women will make complains to each other has a conversation topic, and to release some steam. When a complaint is made between men, they see it as something that needs fixing. The seventh and finale miscommunication is jokes, which for men, are kinds that are seen as attacking. Men will makes jokes that may attack one’s character or is seen as taboo. Women, on the other hand, will make jokes about themselves, potentially as a complaint as well. For example, I have a dark sense of humor. I will laugh at jokes that make light of serious events like 9-11. These type of jokes will only make my mother, for example, angry with me. When I am with my friends they will either laugh or tell me it’s a bad joke. When they say it’s a bad joke they mean it was poorly constructed. 4/22/2019